Bringing the family together...

Being told we are going to die stops us in our tracks. What was once something that happened to other people has now become personal, and we are forced to develop a new relationship with ourselves.

When we do accept that a death is inevitable, we shift into wanting to do the right thing at the right time but, with little experience, we don’t know how to begin. Our sense of close connection can falter, spontaneity fades and we often stumble.

Strong Back/Soft Front: Joan Halifax (Being with Dying, 2008) refers to having a strong back and a soft front when confronted with death. With a strong back we are able to move into our discomfort, and with a soft front we can speak from and listen with our hearts. Spontaneity, sincerity, and physical affection can return to our relationships.

Each relationship within that family is unique. With thoughtful guidance all involved can gain a sense of purpose. The dying member can learn to openly and comfortably communicate his/her end of life goals, and each family member/close friend can determine their own needs while simultaneously loving and supporting each other.

One-on-one counseling is usually available at the treating medical center, but there is seldom any counseling offered to the family unit as a whole. It would be a privilege to work with you and your family during the critical window after terminal diagnosis and prior to the onset of debilitating illness. Together we can hold the space necessary to resolve fears, doubts, resentments and prior disputes so that a rich dialogue can emerge.

Would you rather walk and talk with me?
Nature is a very healing environment in which to open up and think clearly.
Does it appeal to you to share your concerns while walking with me, side by side and looking ahead? We can walk in a community park or take your favorite walking path. If you don’t care to walk, you might want to choose a favorite place to sit and talk, maybe in your backyard. If this sounds like something you might enjoy, let’s do it.